We are all in a constant state of our own evolutions. We go through a cycle that looks like this: uncertainty à new steps à new directions à new joy à comfort à stagnation à uncertainty. We are constantly flowing from one of these spaces to another and we are never spending very long in one spot along the way. Even when we are fully feeling joyful about our place in life, part of our soul is yearning for the next step forward and the next uncertainty.

Recognizing this pattern brings empowerment, awareness and clarity. It helps us to know that, even when we are feeling the uncertainty, this does not mean our life is all fucked up. It just means that we are in transition. We are experiencing growth, expansion and illumination. This is only an unhappy time for us if we have decided that things are all fucked up. We can choose to recognize this as uncertainty.

In the moments when we don’t feel that happiness is available to us, we can gain solace in the knowing that we are well on our way to the next best thing for us. Growth almost always feels challenging in some way for us, as our mind struggles to process what is happening to us. Our mind perceives that things are happening to us. We have an emotional reaction to this judgment, and we decide that we are lost.

There is a fear that comes when we don’t know the best step forward. We doubt ourselves and we don’t trust our own knowing. Our own knowing is what is driving us forward even when our minds don’t fully recognize or grasp our own truth.

Be gentle and kind with yourself. Ease back. Get your mind out of the crazy brew that is happening and trust that your soul is guiding you to living in the light that you don’t yet see. It’s all going to be just fine. Really. 

Did you know that you can talk to your soul, and that your soul is fully packed with brilliant wisdom? You soul is the essence of who you are, and your soul is the part of you that has always existed in some form or other. You can ask your soul for guidance at any stage of your life, whenever you are feeling that you could use some extra clarity. Your soul always has the complete wisdom to guide you in making the best choices for you.

Learn how to ask the best questions that will bring you guidance and clarity. Ask to understand the larger picture, and to clearly see what patterns you may be repeating that are blocking your attempts at success.

This is one way you can talk to your soul:

·      Get quiet. Create a sacred space and take ten deep breaths and feel your body beginning to relax and your mind beginning to find calm.

·      Set the intention to connect to the clarity of your soul. Ask to have the guidance you need to clearly understand the information that you are given. Let go of your doubts, focus on connecting with the stillness that already lives inside of you.

·      Be gentle and loving with your self when you are asking your questions. Ask questions like: How change I shift the energy of this current situation to bring an outcome that I desire? What do I need to heal within me to bring me what I want in this area of my life?

·      Listen to what your soul says, and write it down.

·      Reflect, learn, absorb, heal.

Everything that exists in your life is there by your design. You may be creating in unconscious ways and repeating patterns that you absorbed at different stages of your existence. You may be sabotaging your best efforts without even realizing the part that you are playing.

You may feel that you are not receiving clarity in your conversations with your soul. To enhance this ability, you need to develop and nourish a relationship with your inner self. Maybe she is not feeling honored or understood? Maybe you need to romance her a little and show her how dedicated and committed you are to creating a thriving intimate relationship with her. Show her that you trust her wisdom and she will have more to share with you as you grow together.

I feel that I have mastered the ways of masculine creating in this world. What I mean by this is that I know how to be productive, efficient, effective, and driven. I know to take a project and work on it from start to finish and experience success on this level. I know how to create things in my work environment, in home projects and anything else that may be on my to-do list.

I am just starting to learn about how to create using my feminine power. This is an intuitive way of creation that is guided by our own inner forces. It doesn’t necessarily focus on a completion date, nor does it rely on having a sense of efficiency and following a route that is all mapped out. This is the power that I need to be in tune with in order to create the things that are living in my heart and waiting for me to discover.

You are here to bring things into this world that do not yet exist. I have a sense of being able to do more, to live more fully in the potential of who I truly am on an inner level. I know there is so much of me that is greater than what I am able to experience in my current understanding of life. I know that this is what I am learning right now. I know that when I imagine what my perfect life looks like, it is based all on things that involve me creating from my heart, and they are not derived from the typical methods of creation that are predominant in our society.

It’s time for us all to cultivate a new way of creating our lives. It’s time for us to learn how to create in ways that are intuitive; based on collaboration and bringing things forth from our hearts. Many of us experience a sense of anxiety when we don’t have things mapped out. Many of us are stuck in a place of frustration because we don’t trust ourselves to take the next step and we don’t trust that we know the way. We need to become connected to our deeper yearnings. We need to get in touch with the wild force that lives within us.

The truth is that we always know our way. We all have the answers that we need inside of us. The map lies within us and we are here to learn how to follow that map to living our best lives. We will always come across the perfect situations we need to help us bring forth this wisdom, and we will come across the people that we need to grow beyond our old comfort zones.

When you are connecting to this energy you are connecting to the Goddess that lives within you. You are connecting to divine wisdom that is your birthright and part of your journey here to discover. The Goddess that lives within you is beautiful, radiant and wise. To connect with her, you need to get out of your head and into your heart. Move beyond the thoughts that are controlling you life and live from within, from a place of feminine power.

To connect with this wisdom you will need to create a new way of being yourself. This new way of being is based on checking in with what is in your own heart when you are making decisions. This way forward is not based on logic or facts. Begin to feel your way into things. How do things really feel to you? There is no need for you to rationalize or explain or justify your feelings. Just begin to listen to what they are telling you. Your feelings are you internal guidance in action. If something doesn’t feel quite right, perhaps this is because this is not the right direction for you. Always take the path that has heart.

You may feel guided to make certain choices, or to go in a particular direction. Maybe this direction does not make sense to you, and you can’t explain why you feel a certain way about your new path forward. All of these thoughts come from your mind; you don’t need to clearly understand what you are feeling. You need to begin honoring what is true for you.

I have made some big decisions in my life. I have decided to quit jobs, even when I didn’t know what my next step would be. I have acted on feelings that I knew were true for me, even when the decisions I was making were not logical and they were actually scary and new for me.

Many of us are living in our comfort zone. This is the place where we are safe. We know that there is so much more just beyond what we can understand with our minds, but we end up being paralyzed and indecisive about the path forward because we don’t yet know how being in that new place will be. Many of us have lived our lives in our comfort zones. We suffer the same complaints and live in fear of the unknown. Some of us are beginning to awaken from our hearts. We see that there is so much more within us than what we have given in the past. We dream of living some greater purpose but we wait for the road ahead to be laid our clearly for us.

The path forward may never be clear, but once we begin making choices that are following our inner yearnings our lives begin to become transformed from within. I encourage you to experiment with this is your life. Move beyond your comfort zone. Experiment with new ways of creating your own life. Take the small steps that you feel in your heart right now. I believe in you. I believe in your own ability to discover and learn to use your own Goddess power.

What is your heart telling you right now? 

This article was also published in PURE magazine

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I have passed through some rough patches in my life. We all do. I was depressed for along time and searching for an external source of happiness. I felt so much hate; towards myself especially. This hate was a crushing force that I carried around with me for years. The hate was impenetrable and it made it impossible for the good things to come into my life, and it also made it impossible for all the good to flow out from me.

I began to learn through my life experiences and books that found me, that I was worthy of my own love. This was a huge foreign and extreme concept for me. I had never been exposed to this concept of self love before. I felt that if anyone else knew me as I knew myself, that surely they would see how I could be justified in my self loathing and constant criticism.   

My perspective began to gradually shift and I began to understand that I had been my own worst enemy. I started to feel lightness in my heart. I began to see that the abuse I had been yelling at myself were not true. I came to see that I was not like anyone else, and all the things that made me different were in facts gift that other people enjoyed witnessing in me. I came to know that I am here to bring things into the world that do not yet exist here.

Self love is a practice, and it is a worthy and fruitful endeavor. It is a process of being aware of the way you are treating yourself, and committing and recommitting to seeing the best in all that is you. Be aware of the thoughts you are choosing to think about yourself. Many of these thoughts are un-true and unkind. Love yourself by treating yourself with the love, honor and respect that you truly deserve. 

This article was also published in the lovely Roots of She "Become a Self-love Warrior" playbook.